Somethings are meant to change...

Hello everyone,

I've been doing a bit of thinking recently as a couple of things have passed. (nothing big just regular life) Anyways, so my younger son has been crawling to his heart's content and trying to walk. He can do it by himself but only when he is holding someone's hand, I'm sure it's because he just feels reassured. Regardless of the fact, it is very interesting to see how your children grow daily. in fact I can take an example from both of my sons with countless stories.

For example, my six (6) year old boy; he's been learning to be a little more independent. We no longer have to constantly be on him and he is starting to get the hang of doing certain things before we have to remind him. Just watching him makes life interesting as he venture off into his own little adventures. I see his imagination run wild and it reminds me of myself as a child. People always thought I was awkward and annoying but all I ever did was want to have a little fun.

The most interesting thing though is his attitude towards things. When he was smaller, he always got upset when he learned he wasn't allowed to do something. ( he sometimes still does it) As he has gotten older, he has gotten a bit better at understanding why certain things can't be done now, or why he shouldn't touch the iron when it is turned on and most of that is cause of small things we learn along the way.

Keri Russel once said, "Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever." For instance... If you have ever seen the show, "How I Met Your Mother" you are well aware of when Barney met Nora and began having feelings for her. In the clip below, we see how easily Barney changes his mind on things, mostly due to the fact that he is perverted and well "loves" women (it's in quotations because I am using "love" very, very, very loosely.) but it is a simple example on a small change that ended up having a great impact.

Now that you have seen the clip, I'm going to explain what happens in the rest that is not shown in the clip. (*Note* Spoiler alert!!!!!) So as we saw Barney chose to break his rule of going on a second date with Nora because she is hot. Now mind you Barney ends up falling head over heels for Nora and even goes as far as staying n a diner waiting for her so that they can deepen their relationship. He made a conscious decision that began on the basis of STUPID and simpleminded reasoning, and yet that small change or "exception" lead to him being in a relationship that he never expected which then opened him up to being able to truly fall in love with someone else, *coughs*Robin*coughs* lol.

The small change opened up doors for something Barney had always said he would never do, like getting married, which he ended up marrying Robin leading to Ted finding his wife and tying the whole show together. (Like I said........ spoilers... ;) )

The same can be applied to our life (bare with me as I tie it in). Change doesn't have to be complicated, it doesn't even have to be extravagant. Its about setting possible mental goals. As people, we tend to set impossible goals that end up overwhelming us. We make "New Years" resolutions like losing weight, going to the Gym, and my favorite...... BEING A BETTER PERSON.

Mind you these goals are always to broad and seem impossible. I'll Break it down (all just examples).

1. Losing weight - Instead of saying I'm gonna lose weight and get back to my size 32 when you're a 40 seems a bit over drastic as opposed to saying I want to Lose 7 pounds every 2 months. Which if you look at it  over the course of one (1) year it is a total of 42 pounds... which is a lot. Imagine being 42 pounds lighter in a year. Its a small goal that seems possible and can achieve the highest satisfaction
2. Being a better person - WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN???????? People put to much emphasis on making sure they go to more church functions, helping the homeless, and yada yada yada. Just because you feed the homeless and help the needy doesn't really make you a better person. I say this because you can do all those things and look good in the public eye but still have a rotten soul. "To be a better person" (if we take it literally) means to work on oneself, and actually work through the crap that is you and changing you. The constant need to undermine people, or lack restraint or lash out. Changing those things makes you a better person, NOT JUST DOING THINGS IN THE OPEN.

I'm gonna skip the Gym time cause losing weight and that go kind of hand in hand....

Back to change, it isn't complicated, it just needs to be done. You are meant to change, life is meant to change, and even though we can't always control it we can help veer change so that it doesn't bite us in the butt and blindside us. Just like with our kids (if you have any) they will learn, they will change, but you can't over complicate it. they are learning just like you are. For those who are married, You are gonna need to change to fit your wife's needs as you both grow together, likewise so will she to fit yours. Yet, as I mentioned before, its the small decisions that will end up creating the most impact. If you change the little things to a big problem, you end up crumbling the big issues as you have taken it apart bit by bit until it is no longer there.

I leave you with this:

If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. - Maya Angelou

Be blessed.